An even bigger question is why weren't men churched. Men have an equal role in creating a human life but because he's not carrying the child and there's no evidence it's his unless you get a DNA test, he can walk into mass with his head held high. It's like Tuam and all those other mother and baby homes. They had all the information on the mother and her children but where was the father? Some were ran out by the girl's family, some just didn't care and others didn't even know. Those men would never know the shame or guilt, the feeling of being ripped from your home to protect your family's name or the feeling of isolation. They'll carry on with their lives, not knowing the little boys and girls they left behind. But, those little boys and girls will grow up and will come home from school one day with a family tree asking questions like " where is my father?" Questions no mother wants to answer. And those little boys and girls who continue to age still get asked those questions. Their grandchildren will come home from school with their own family tree, asking their grandparents questions about their history and would not be able to answer. But sometimes it's even more difficult to know these answers
A woman met a man one day who promised her the world so she gaved all herself to him. As a result, she fell pregnant. Her family found out, her brothers ran him out and he never came back. The woman became a spinster along with her sister and the two raised the little girl to be a wonderful, amzing woman. That woman met a man at 17, feel deeply in love and through may trials, including a ring thrown in the river, got married. They had six children and were very happy. But the husband, who loved his wife very much, decided to look for her father and he found him. 20 minutes away. No visits, no phonecalls, no letters. Nothing. The husband told his wife the news but she had no intention of meeting the sperm donor. She felt it would be betraying her mother and aunt if she developed a relationship with this man. So, after much persuasion, the wife agreed to watch from a distance with her husband. There, she saw her father for the first time standing across the road with his wife, children and grandchildren. Him not knowing that his first-born was on the opposite side with her first-born in her arms. He'll never know.
EOD